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On Poll of the Day, a GameFAQs message board topic titled 'My ex signed up for Tinder' - Page 12. Poll Shows Most Tinder Users Are Already In A Relationship. The dual blessing and curse of Tinder is that you can’t tell much about a person when you swipe right on their profile — what their politics are, what kind of work they do… or if they’re in a relationship.. Via Mic:. Yes, we’re sorry to report that, according to new data, a surprisingly large number of Tinder users are ... The Great (Casual) Tinder Poll So I see the question come up here pretty often about how well (badly) us guys do when matching and messaging girls. To better understand the thinking of these mythical creatures I have begun a completely random and fun questionnaire with 100 of my matches. Tinder's recommendation for your next date is a small kiosk located in Malviya Nagar, Delhi. Choosing a perfect date place is tough. One has to consider several aspects to ensure that the location turns out to be boon when you spend time with your beloved. Dating app Tinder this time has got ... To most people, Tinder is just a hookup app. However, Tinder reports that its users don’t just see it that way. It says that out of its 20 billion matches, 80% of them are looking for meaningful relationships. This goes against the reputation the app has gained over the years. It has been found that 22% of students on Tinder use Tinder for ... With over 14% of the political matches made through Swipe The Vote, Ted Cruz was the easy winner among the Republican-leaning Tinder users that completed the poll. He edged out Donald Trump, who matched with 8% of the political swipers. Interestingly, there was a huge gender gap for Tinder users' political affiliation. On Poll of the Day, a GameFAQs message board topic titled 'Tinder is useless when you're not into white men'.

The U.S. shows all the signs of a country spiraling toward political violence

2020.09.13 15:36 billypennsballs The U.S. shows all the signs of a country spiraling toward political violence

By Rachel KleinfeldRachel Kleinfeld is a senior fellow at the Carnegie Endowment for International Peace. Her most recent book is “A Savage Order: How the World’s Deadliest Countries Can Forge a Path to Security.”September 11, 2020 at 11:35 a.m. EDTAdd to list
In the past 16 weeks, more than 50 drivers have plowed into peaceful protesters all around the country. Armed militants shut down Michigan’s legislature. Unidentified law enforcement officers heaved demonstrators into unmarked vans. Security forces in Washington used low-flying helicopters to harass citizens decrying police brutality. Protesters and police alike have brutalized journalists. Ideologues from left and right have been accused of killing political opponents. Should Americans be worried about widespread violence?
Yes. Political violence in democracies often seems spontaneous: an angry mob launching a pogrom, a lone shooter assassinating a president. But in fact, the crisis has usually been building for years, and the risk factors are well known. The United States is now walking the last steps on that path.
Partisans who would never commit violence themselves are transforming from bystanders to apologists, making excuses for the “excesses” of their side while pointing fingers across the aisle. Particularly striking have been the inflammatory statements of Republican politicians, given the influence leaders’ words carry. Of course, they are simply mimicking President Trump, who is most responsible for setting the kindling aflame.
Political violence tends to strike in countries where it has happened before. It feeds on discrimination, social segregation and inequality — which provide reasons for grievance while making it hard for divided populations to understand each other. Polarization exacerbates these conditions while blocking societies from solving their problems.
All the ingredients are here: America’s political violence traces back to our Civil War, the causes of which were never really resolved. The Union won the war, but the Confederates prevailed in the peace. Attempting to undo nearly a century of segregation and discrimination with civil rights legislation in the mid-1960s ushered in the next national outbreak of violence. The wound of racism deepens America’s deep inequality and our political polarization.
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The most deadly countries in the world, in fact, are not at war. They’re highly unequal, highly polarized democracies facing a cocktail of political, criminal and state violence. In these places, such as Colombia in the 1990s and early 2000s, political violence mixes with state repression, vigilantism and crime (which often gains community support by playing a political angle, exemplified by drug kingpin Pablo Escobar’s use of charity to ingratiate himself with the poor). South Africa’s brutal police, vigilante gangs and xenophobic pogroms may seem far from our society — but the pattern is similar to America’s problems with police brutality, white-supremacist vigilantes, and shootings in recent years at an immigrant-friendly Walmart in El Paso, a Pittsburgh synagogue and a Black church in Charleston, S.C.
Similar risk factors also exist in countries that aren’t slipping into violence. For instance, Spain fought a civil war in the 20th century and battled a domestic terrorist campaign into the 21st. It is one of the most unequal countries in Europe. Since 2008, it has faced political polarization so intense that its two-party system has split into four. Catalonia’s secessionist movement resulted in nine regional politicians receiving prison sentences for sedition just a year ago. Yet partisans are not killing one another in the streets.
That’s because countries can be resilient, too. Strong democratic institutions, such as trusted courts and functional legislatures, can keep violence at bay by enabling populations to resolve differences. Political parties that are shaped by mass membership and ideological agreement, rather than serving as vehicles for individuals, also make violence less likely.
Even more important is a healthy society. Norms against violence are crucial. Crosscutting identities — such as religious affiliations or strong ties to a location — help people come together around identities that are not polarized. Social trust is a nation’s immune system. When it weakens, countries are less able to fend off or recover from all manner of ills.
The election will likely spark violence — and a constitutional crisis
Consider industrializing England in the early 1800s, 150 years after its civil war. Extraordinary inequality and exclusion existed alongside a dysfunctional, corrupt electoral system. A failing economy, tariffs and taxes impoverished the poor. Luddites smashed industrial machines. In 1819, aristocrats were so frightened by working-class demands for the vote that the cavalry charged a peaceful political rally of 60,000 people, murdering nearly a dozen protesters. The government temporarily suspended rights to assembly and speech, instigating assassination plots against multiple ministers.
Yet Parliament, political parties and the courts were strong. The government worked to end slavery and enable unions; politicians didn’t want violence. While their attempts were highly imperfect, they tried to steer the state into a new economic epoch as best they could. England exited this rot into an era of bustling Victorian do-gooders rather than armed fighters in the streets.
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In the United States, however, resilience has been weakening, even as our risk factors increase. We are among the world’s most polarized countries. Racial, ideological, religious and geographic identities reinforce one another, exacerbating partisan division rather than offering alternative connections. Trust in the government is at a near-historic low of 17 percent, and 79 percent of Americans think there’s too little trust between citizens. Meanwhile, institutional guardrails are eroding. Gridlock and decline define Congress. Opinions about the Supreme Court are increasingly driven by partisanship. The Republican Party has set aside professed values to rally behind a personality.
As resilience fades and risks rise, society begins to break. People lose faith in established parties and processes. They begin to look to outsiders who promise to “fix it.” Politicians who see a path to power by enabling violence pose the greatest danger. They test the system to gauge costs and benefits. If they are shut out of mainstream political parties, as the Brits, Finns and Belgians did to homegrown fascist leaders in the 1930s and 1940s, societies can move on peacefully. Republican voters similarly succeeded in preventing nativist Pat Buchanan from running on their ticket in 2000. But by 2016, the GOP, weakened by the tea party’s rise, couldn’t stop Donald Trump from taking over.
When opportunistic politicians get a foothold, they break institutional guardrails with astonishing speed. They undermine professional norms, as with Trump’s refusal to set aside his personal business interests. They politicize institutions of government, often demanding personal loyalty — as Trump has done with independent inspectors general, the Justice Department, the post office and countless senior appointments. Meanwhile, they accelerate political polarization and gin up violent sentiment.
An early warning sign is language that casts enemies as subhuman and threatening. The causal relationship between such language and violence is one reason scholars have been so alarmed at Trump’s consistent amalgamation of immigrants, people of color and political opponents as nonhuman and menacing.
Dehumanizing language reduces inhibitions to violence. Framing vilified populations as threatening enables perpetrators to justify aggression as self-protection. That’s what happened with Bosnian leader Radovan Karadzic, who compared Muslims to animals as he rose to power in the late 1980s and early 1990s. Repetition of the canard that Muslims were a demographic threat to Serbian identity helped Serbs rationalize murder to “defend” their way of life against neighbors whose lives were remarkably similar. Consider Trump’s 2016 Republican convention speech, in which he claimed that “nearly 180,000 illegal immigrants with criminal records, ordered deported from our country, are tonight roaming free to threaten peaceful citizens,” followed by countless repetitions of the theme that “these aren’t people — these are animals,” blurring distinctions between immigrants in general and gang members. The result has been a steep rise in violent hate crimes against Latinos, according to FBI statistics.
Trump has spread more hatred of immigrants than any American in history
A country’s final line of defense is a professional, nonpolitical security service that refuses to use force against civilians. Even if the tinder has been laid and an institution-destroying politician sends sparks flying, the conflagration rarely catches until state violence is turned on peaceful opposition.
The United States has one of the world’s most professional militaries. But we also have 18,000 local police forces and myriad state and federal security agencies with different norms and levels of professionalization. Since the beginning of his presidency, Trump has recognized and applauded law enforcement agencies that felt underappreciated, such as U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement and local sheriffs. Using incendiary language and pardons for lawbreaking, he has encouraged violence against civilians, as when he told a group of law enforcement officers, “Don’t be too nice” to suspects. Many officers welcome the freer rein.
The federal crackdown in Portland is ‘legal.’ That’s the problem with it.
Decades of research on violence, ranging from 1960s protests in Germany and Italy to terrorist movements in North Africa today, has found that government repression is the turning point that shifts peaceful movements toward violence. Organizations trying to operate within the system look weak and foolish, while violent splinter groups swell with new recruits from the fearful and angry. Protesters and the state feed each other’s violence in a vicious spiral. Data shows that this is precisely what happened in Portland, Ore., where violence escalated after the deployment of federal security forces this summer.
Soon, polarized populations begin rationalizing, downplaying or even denying the violence from their side. Moderates begin to silence themselves, fearing for their jobs, social standing or lives. Even partisans once seen as extreme begin to face similar consequences if they try to stand against dehumanization, intimidation or violence. Why speak when David Shor, a liberal former Obama campaigner, can be fired for tweeting a study about the negative political effects of violent protest tactics? Even partisans once seen as extreme begin to face similar consequences, as when the evangelical conservative writer David French was attacked from the right for defending civility.
This is where America is now.
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So what might our future hold? Civil war seems far-fetched; U.S. institutions are weakening, but they remain stronger than in many countries. Despite pervasive “law and order” rhetoric, overall violence is actually quite low: At just under 5 homicides per 100,000 people, today’s murder rate is about where it was in the late 1950s and early 1960s, according to the FBI’s statistics.
What we may be in for, though, is a return to the 1960s and 1970s. That might sound innocuous — except that 13,000 National Guardsmen were deployed to Los Angeles after 34 people were killed in the 1965 riots, the first of hundreds of protests and more than a dozen violent riots over the next three years that killed over 100 and left urban centers gutted for four decades. A president and presidential candidate, John F. and Bobby Kennedy, were assassinated, as were Malcolm X and Martin Luther King Jr. In 1972, another presidential candidate, George Wallace, narrowly survived an assassination attempt. A 1968 Gallup poll found that 81 percent of the country agreed that “law and order has broken down.” A University of Michigan researcher found in 1971 that nearly one-third of men thought that “police beating students” wasn’t violence at all — and even more felt the same about “police shooting looters.” Throughout the 1970s, America faced nearly 1,500 terrorist attacks, nearly all domestic in origin. The murder rate crept up steadily, nearly doubling from the early 1960s through the late 1970s.
To avoid this fate again, we must stop casting blame. Finger-pointing is seductive; it feels morally necessary and even essential to identifying the “real” cause of the problem. But at this point, partisans can’t agree on the real cause. The only way out is to sidestep worn arguments and begin rebuilding from points of agreement — as Colombia did when millions voted in favor of constitutional change in 1990, even if they couldn’t find common ground on whether left-wing rebels or right-wing paramilitaries were more to blame for the crisis.
America’s democracy is ailing, and its immune system is on life support. We are the only industrialized democracy with decreasing life expectancy. Deaths in our streets are augmented by those from covid-19 and deaths of despair. These ailments grow from a broken social contract, which we cannot repair from inside polarized bunkers. Instead, we must find some way to step back from the brink.
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2020.09.04 16:21 Kujo17 White people have gentrified Black Lives Matter. It’s a problem

*this article is an editorial originally published here, in the LA Times And is being reposted in full. Please consider visiting the original link to support this writer aswell as for more information
By ERIN B. LOGAN
Erin B. Logan is a reporter for the Los Angeles Times. Her work has been featured in the Washington Post, National Public Radio and the Baltimore Sun. She previously studied at Vanderbilt University and American University. Though based in Washington, she’s a true southerner at heart and is always on the hunt for authentic sweet tea.


In July, a white woman folded her body yoga-style onto the asphalt of a Portland street, her breasts and vagina exposed before a line of police officers. Shesaid the movement for racial justice provoked a “very deep feminine place” within and that her “nakedness is political.” Some on Twitter described it as “stunning and brave.” I found it a grotesque display of privilege.
Black Lives Matter was once shunned by the white establishment. But now, it’s chic. And that’s a problem.
Here in Washington, the phrase is plastered on the street that runs perpendicular to the White House. BLM banners fly from homes in Silver Lake. BLM posters are taped to the windows of Portland coffee shops. BLM hashtags fill users’ bios on Twitter and Tinder.
Institutions including Uber, Airbnb and the National Football League have embraced Black Lives Matter. (Yes, the same NFL that shunned Colin Kaepernick four years ago for kneeling in protest of police brutality now issues calls to “end racism” in their endzones.) This jolt of white solidarity is not imaginary. According to a June pollfrom Monmouth University, 49% of white Americans now say police are more likely to use excessive force against a Black culprit. In 2016, that figure was 25%. But will it last?
White people have been involved in Black liberation efforts for centuries, from abolition in the 19th century to civil rights in the 20th, according to Hasan Kwame Jeffries, a history professor at Ohio State.
Some white supporters bolstered the original Black Lives Matter movement, which emerged in response to the police killing of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Mo., in August 2014. And in this second big wave of BLM protests that began in May after the police killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis, an unprecedented number of white people flooded the streets.
Young people like me (I’m 25) were the largest age cohort among the protesters. One reason young people protested is that they had been cooped up in their homes due to the global pandemic, said Douglas McAdam, a sociologist at Stanford who studies social movements. He told me that the dire economy, coupled with disdain for the current president, is also a factor in a large number of young people in the streets.
In other words, it can be hard to disaggregate young people’s rage about the loss of life, hope, jobs and opportunities from their righteous solidarity with Black protesters.
But Jeffries told me that, in broad terms, there is a distinction between the motivations of white and Black protesters.
Historically, when Black people protest, they are responding to intolerable and immediate injustice — say, the water crisis in Flint. In contrast, white Americans tend to protest over more abstract goals — like the Occupy Wall Street protests against economic inequality or the melting of Arctic glaciers — and are driven, he said, by the “fierce urgency of the future.”
“What you’re willing to sacrifice, demand and compromise is going to be different,” Jeffries said. “There is a shared sense of the problem but your immediate objective is fundamentally different.”
This is certainly true for AJ Lovelace. The 28-year old activist filmmaker felt the marches over the summer started off coherent and then devolved into being performative.
“It was obvious to me that people were out there to say they were out there,” Lovelace said. “White girls would agitate the police and then cry when they responded. This isn’t how a protest works.”
“Saying Black Lives Matter is about the present,” Lovelace said. “If we are alive and breathing now, we are entitled to having a future. And I feel like white people get caught up in the game of politics and they lose the focus that this is not just about that. What it is about is changing a racist and oppressive system so there can be real measurable equality and equity,” he said.
“It’s bigger than one presidential candidate,” he added. As a Black woman, I agree. It’s hard for white people to grasp that Black people have suffered from systemic racism under every president, including Barack Obama. Black America knows this struggle began long before Trump and will persist once he’s gone.
William Sturkey, a historian at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, said that when Black liberation movements emerge, there always “comes a point when white allies realize the gravity of the movement and want to make sure they are on the right side of history.”
“Their presence in the civil rights movement did help shine more of a light on protests but it overshadowed the courage of the original Black activists,” he said.
White co-optation can overshadow those involved in grassroots efforts, and it creates the illusion that “everyone was part of this movement the whole time,” he said. After the dust settled in the 1970s and public opinion shifted, everyone claimed to have been a civil rights activist.
Anti-racist author and lecturer Tim Wise said he is “cautiously optimistic” about the onslaught of white faces in crowds but also “nervous about what happens when people who really up until May weren’t particularly engaged in this issue are all of a sudden ‘ready for the revolution.’”
Wise said that while protests can be cathartic, “95% of what needs to happen is not in the streets.”
That’s true. Most of what needs to change happens in a civic setting often void of TV cameras. And it is an improbable place for a white woman spreading her legs for the whole world. It’s going to take drastic changes in policy and laws. It will also require everyone’s attention.
Jeffries told me that if history shows one thing to be true, it’s that white attention and sympathy for Black social justice is fleeting. It wanes when cameras disappear.
I fear that may be happening now.
According to a June poll, 45% of white people surveyed found racism to be a “big problem.” By early August, that number had fallen to 33%.
I suppose I’m not too surprised ... because ... white people.

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2020.09.01 09:36 warrenpeaceout “You will come to regret this.”

This was the final text after a series of pleadings to reconsider my decision to break up.
I finally did it. The culminating moments happened when he was gone for a week with come college buddies and I got to spend some quality time with my own friends (which was incredibly rare). They noticed how unrestricted, responsive, and carefree I had been during this week and eventually dropped the topic that I should probably end the relationship. I fought their ideas because I really had no decision-making power of my own, and haven’t in the past 18 months.
After some long nights of drinking with these friends followed by self-reflection within this one-week period, I finally came to the conclusion that it’s been years since I’ve been myself. I feel so f*cking stupid for letting this happen to me, but after I found some online resources about narcissistic abuse, I’ve learned that I was particularly susceptible to his control.
So I picked him up from the airport, listened to him complain about stupid, inconsequential inconveniences, and brought up how unhappy I was in the relationship. He exploded. The conversation spiraled into a 5-hour olympics of emotional performances, where he ranged from intense anger and blaming, to sadness and remorse, to understanding bc he knew this would happen, and repeating back to angesadness/understanding/begging/pleading. It was so pathetic to watch, but I sobbed throughout the entire experience thinking I had hurt the one person that meant the most to me.
I eventually left, after crying so much more than he did about the experience, sobbing in my Subaru and feeling guilty for the whole next day; but what happened next showed me his true tendencies and honestly alleviated so much guilt and stress on my part. He texted me wanting to meet up to talk about the conversation because he didn’t feel like the way I brought it up was fair. Being the understanding person I am, I agreed, and wanted to give him the space to talk about his feelings and maybe negotiate how a friendship would look between us moving forward. This was not at all what he wanted, and asked if I’d be open minded or if the conversation was a futile effort. I kindly repeated my initial sentiment. He spat back, “You will come to regret this.”
This was new. I knew he’d be grasping at straws trying to get me back, based on my previous attempts to break it off where I ended up giving him a second (third and fourth) chance, but this was a new level of a cold, emotionless below-the-belt jab. I shrugged it off thinking “this is how he’s allowed to act bc of how out of the blue my decision to break up with him was.” ...ugh
Later that day, I noticed he followed me on ig, meaning he had blocked me which automatically made me unfollow him. I also had a DM from him saying “Can you please follow me back?” and I kindly replied “Oh, just saw this, of course” knowing that when we get mad at people, we sometimes block them on socials to feel better, but again I was trying to make excuses for him.
Within hours (mind you this is still < 48 hours of the breakup) he posts on his ig story a (nice looking) selfie of him in a park with a poll question “How do y’all deal with heartbreak??” and following a series of people responding (that he reposted) saying “Lots of wine and getting my back blown out/Lots of dick/Tinder rampage” responses with his giggly excited commentary fluttering around their childish submissions.
At this point, I’m hurt that the person I’ve spent nearly two years with has sunk to this level of degradation of our relationship. I know I broke it off, but the abuse I suffered throughout the past two years of trying to manage his emotional health, cleaning up his messes, being his sole support system, all the while trying to make a life of my own and comply to his ideas of a relationship standard don’t amount to a sad f*cking insta story series for the world to see. I now have had dozens of friends send me his story asking me “Wtf??” where I now have to call and explain what all went down and admit this is the reality of my day to day experience for the past 18 months. This has robbed me the opportunity to tell some of the closest people in my life how this came to be, and for this I will never forgive him. I am ashamed. I am angry.
TLDR; get out if you can, but it takes such a unique set of circumstances to realize you’re a victim of narcissistic abuse, and the consequences only increase the longer you let their dependency grow.
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2020.08.31 09:49 nobody_u_kno Idea for an app from a non-techie:

A polling app, which posts every idea the govt has implemented. And janta rates it.
You input ur voter ID / unique ID with OTP or something to vote. But no one can track how a particular person voted.
Even you can’t see how you voted after clicking SUBMIT, for safety reasons.
You can only see whether you’ve voted/ not.
Or a tinder + in shorts
You see a quick summary of what the govt has implemented, click to expand. Swipe left for WTF. Swipe right for This is Cool.
Unique ID: so no one creates multiple accounts to swipe right on everything.
If it can be run with BlockChain, even better. So, no one-person is accountable.
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2020.08.26 21:28 Justlivinglifeagain How to make a really good song

Back in the time I read that article about how to make an awesome profile on tinder to draw girls attention. It said "You should take a few different pictures of yours and then make a mini-poll among your friends which one looks the best". Since then this technique actually helps well with instagram pictures :D (The article also said "guys need it because girls always talk about their pictures and know their weak sides. Guys don't." lol ). Back to music!
But what about music? I know it's debatable, because not all the friends are experts in music, some are too skeptical, some are too blind about your music, because they just care about you as a friend.
But composing, arrangement, how much time does it take, if you pay close attention to each stage? My current project in FL Studio says I've been working on it for 60+ hours non-stop and that's not even a mixing stage! Automations samples.
My personal rule is not to show a song to anyone till I'm finished.
But what if it is actually a thing? What if your friends might statistically estimate your project as good or not so good. And if most said it's the coolest thing you've ever done (out of all things YOU did), maybe that's actuall time to put all the efforts into it, hoping for it to be quite a hit?
P.S. While the opposite way to manage and improve your experience would be to take a pencil and a notebook and take down all the remarks people tell you about your songs..

So, what are your thoughts about it?
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2020.08.25 21:46 Colonial_Mael_Radec It seems the creep problem here has escalated dramatically.

I made a post awhile back saying that mostly girls get responded to, which has become a trend as I see people posted that a fair amount. What’s new are the posts from underage kids talking about this. In my previous post I mentioned that gender shouldn’t be mentioned, a few people disagreed. Now I propose that posting someone’s age is a bannable offense.
Why so drastic? Age shouldn’t be relevant, I’m around my 20’s and I have quite a few friends who are underaged, and I never gave a shit about age because I just like talking to them, as people. Ideally everyone should be like this, but this isn’t the case.
Unsurprisingly I also think that posting gender should be a bannable offense as well, just to lessen the creep issue.
The point of the subreddit is to make new friends here (god I’m so funny) but obviously some people see it as tinder at best and Epstein estate at worst. You can disagree, but to really get an idea of what you all think, this will have a poll.
So tell me what you think please k thanks.
View Poll
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2020.08.18 15:43 Bisexual_Slut UPDATE: The unfortunate consequences of using Tinder, Grindr etc. if you want a political career (X-post)

The TL/DR version of what I posted yesterday (https://www.reddit.com/AskGaybrosOver30/comments/iatw4k/the_unfortunate_consequences_of_using_tinde):
There's a Democratic primary election in Massachusetts in a couple of weeks where Alex Morse, a 31yo gay man, is running against incumbent Richard Neal. Timothy Ennis, an UMass college Democrat, with the help of a few others, made up a story that Morse "abused his power" through having consensual relationships on TindeGrindr, in a disgusting homophobic smear campaign. Why? In the hope that it would get a job with Richard Neal. Eventually, Morse was re-endorsed by the (far too many) groups that initially disavowed him.
In the last 24 hours:
So the main people involved in the smear seem to be Tim Ennis, Andrew Abramson, and the Mass Dem party. I didn't expand on Andrew's involvement in my last post, but he's definitely the character in this I'm most upset and disappointed by, so here's some background for those interested:
He messaged Morse on Instagram after they both spoke on a panel at a college democrat event, where he tried to, in his words, "lead him on". (Some time before this, they both matched on Tinder but never met). They ended up having an incredibly racy conversation about !!!TRIGGER WARNING!!! their weekend plans, with Andrew visiting his mom and Morse visiting his friends and going wine tasting. "Not overt but it’s very clear he’s not talking to me for no reason" said Andrew about this conversation in a leaked chat. This was the literally only evidence provided in their accusation that Morse made ANYONE feel "uncomfortable" (Source: https://theintercept.com/2020/08/12/alex-morse-college-democrats-chats/). I should mention this was the only college democrat event Morse ever attended (this has been confirmed, the original 'accusation' stated he had attended numerous events).
...So clearly that means they both need to destroy Alex Morse in the hopes of landing an internship with Morse's opponent. I can't say how saddened I am by Andrew Abramson for being a fellow gay man and using these techniques which, if succeeded, would have destroyed the life of someone within his own community, weaponizing homophobia in the vilest way imaginable. The more I read about this, with the involvement of the state party, the more sick I feel.
Much of the media is ofc still complete garbage, even after all this is revealed. E.g. a recent article in The Daily Beast, one of the few national publications that covered the story, somehow inferred Morse was "cruising young supporters at their official events... [it's] not Friday night at The Abbey". They also referenced (accused serial rapist) Bryan Singer since they both showed "poor behavior or judgment" (!!!). Some elected official, Sullivan, is calling Morse to resign, due to his contact with "teenagers" (he won his first election at 21 and is single, so very well may have dated/met 18/19yo's over that time... but that's clearly not the suggestion).
The overwhelming majority of the national media has been silent on this, but I hope it's spread as much as possible to ensure this can never happen again. Or so people don't respond like last time, with all the references to rape culture, survivors, saying Morse needs psychological help etc., which almost led to him dropping out of the race with his life, his family, and his reputation all destroyed (which would have happened if they weren't so incompetent).
This will be my last post on this, but since the previous post blew up, I thought I would give an update.
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2020.08.18 15:42 Bisexual_Slut UPDATE: The unfortunate consequences of using Tinder, Grindr etc. if you want a political career (X-post)

The TL/DR version of what I posted yesterday (https://www.reddit.com/askgaybros/comments/iatv4q/the_unfortunate_consequences_of_using_tinde):
There's a Democratic primary election in Massachusetts in a couple of weeks where Alex Morse, a 31yo gay man, is running against incumbent Richard Neal. Timothy Ennis, an UMass college Democrat, with the help of a few others, made up a story that Morse "abused his power" through having consensual relationships on TindeGrindr, in a disgusting homophobic smear campaign. Why? In the hope that it would get a job with Richard Neal. Eventually, Morse was re-endorsed by the (far too many) groups that initially disavowed him.
In the last 24 hours:
So the main people involved in the smear seem to be Tim Ennis, Andrew Abramson, and the Mass Dem party. I didn't expand on Andrew's involvement in my last post, but he's definitely the character in this I'm most upset and disappointed by, so here's some background for those interested:
He messaged Morse on Instagram after they both spoke on a panel at a college democrat event, where he tried to, in his words, "lead him on". (Some time before this, they both matched on Tinder but never met). They ended up having an incredibly racy conversation about !!!TRIGGER WARNING!!! their weekend plans, with Andrew visiting his mom and Morse visiting his friends and going wine tasting. "Not overt but it’s very clear he’s not talking to me for no reason" said Andrew about this conversation in a leaked chat. This was the literally only evidence provided in their accusation that Morse made ANYONE feel "uncomfortable" (Source: https://theintercept.com/2020/08/12/alex-morse-college-democrats-chats/). I should mention this was the only college democrat event Morse ever attended (this has been confirmed, the original 'accusation' stated he had attended numerous events).
...So clearly that means they both need to destroy Alex Morse in the hopes of landing an internship with Morse's opponent. I can't say how saddened I am by Andrew Abramson for being a fellow gay man and using these techniques which, if succeeded, would have destroyed the life of someone within his own community, weaponizing homophobia in the vilest way imaginable. The more I read about this, with the involvement of the state party, the more sick I feel.
Much of the media is ofc still complete garbage, even after all this is revealed. E.g. a recent article in The Daily Beast, one of the few national publications that covered the story, somehow inferred Morse was "cruising young supporters at their official events... [it's] not Friday night at The Abbey". They also referenced (accused serial rapist) Bryan Singer since they both showed "poor behavior or judgment" (!!!). Some elected official, Sullivan, is calling Morse to resign, due to his contact with "teenagers" (he won his first election at 21 and is single, so very well may have dated/met 18/19yo's over that time... but that's clearly not the suggestion).
The overwhelming majority of the national media has been silent on this, but I hope it's spread as much as possible to ensure this can never happen again. Or so people don't respond like last time, with all the references to rape culture, survivors, saying Morse needs psychological help etc., which almost led to him dropping out of the race with his life, his family, and his reputation all destroyed (which would have happened if they weren't so incompetent).
This will be my last post on this, but since the previous post blew up, I thought I would give an update.
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2020.08.17 04:42 thesupremeboca I want to ‘shoot my shot’ now that I’m 18, but I’m scared of rejection.

Bear with me;
Last year, I was an immature 17 year old that met this amazing 19 year old guy on Tinder. We talked everyday for a week and he was eager to take me on a date.
Long story short, I came clean about my age (not 18) but we brushed it off and had the most amazing date ever. I can’t even explain how well we connected and got along (like he predicted). It felt so good knowing I had met someone as perfect and genuine as him. He treated me so well and we had so much fun. This particular individual has showed me and treated me so well in ONE DAY — better than my ex of 5 months has ever treated me.
MY MISTAKE: the following Monday, everyone in my class was buzzing about him and how cute he was (based on what I had posted). I honestly just kept talking about him and bragging about our date, including how old he was.
My teacher overheard this and took it the wrong way. I understand I was underage at the time but he literally ended up calling the cops. My parents got involved and were super angry with me. As a result, I just lied about everything and told them I made up the story. I had to call him and tell him that I couldn’t see him anymore. I explained to him what happened and he got super sad, afraid, and confused. But we ended things right there.
I know he had seen my stories about my 18th bday. He used to never interact with me at all and refused all contact but as of recently, he’s been interacting with my socials (answering polls, liking pics) and he matched with me on Tinder...again!
I just wanted to tell our story and seek encouragement. Should I shoot my shot? Today would be our one year anniversary since our amazing date. I was thinking I’d send him a video of us “One year ago, today” memory on Snapchat as an excuse to slide in. Opinions?
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2020.08.05 04:41 jessaminejames I WAS BANNED FROM TINDER FOR BEING A TRANS WOMAN

Heyy redditors I just want to do a quick poll I believe I was banned from tinder for being a transgender woman has anyone else had this experience I had an account awhile ago where I didn't Disclose my gender identity I had that account for over a year I just made a new account 5 days ago where I did Disclose my gender identity in my bio today I realized I was banned for seemingly so reason I had no sexually explicit photos on my profile all my photos were of myself and I wasn't soliciting any other users if you or someone who you know have had a experience like this please leave a comment or dm me I'm feeling so let down by society today
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2020.08.05 04:19 jessaminejames I WAS BANNED FROM TINDER FOR BEING A TRANS WOMAN

Heyy redditors I just want to do a quick poll I believe I was banned from tinder for being a transgender woman has anyone else had this experience I had an account awhile ago where I didn't Disclose my gender identity I had that account for over a year I just made a new account 5 days ago where I did Disclose my gender identity in my bio today I realized I was banned for seemingly so reason I had no sexually explicit photos on my profile all my photos were of myself and I wasn't soliciting any other users if you or someone who you know have had a experience like this please leave a comment or DM me I've been feeling so let down by society today
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2020.08.04 17:07 BasicRedditor1997 What are you looking for on Bumble?

What are you looking for on Bumble?
Just to see where everyone stands.
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2020.07.27 04:04 letsburn00 First /r/ASX_bets meetup (WA, NT, SA, TAS, QLD, ACT?)

It's time to discuss the /ASX_bets meetups. Given it looks like things are escalating, sooner rather than later may be better before the country goes into lockdown again. Thus, below is a poll which will let you say which day you prefer.

The currently planned time is 1PM. That way, the odds of being anywhere dark near any of your weirdos is reduced. Plus it gives you time to get home to make dinner while your wife goes on her Saturday date with her boyfriend.

There will be multiple meetups,one occurring in each city. The way we work out the location within the cities is: We have made a comment below listing each city. Reply to that comment to nominate the pub where you think it's best to do it in your city. up-vote and down-vote the pubs accordingly by preference. Downvoting other cities has no effect.

Now there is some sort of pandemic going on which making in person gatherings a little bit tricky. This definitely excludes Victoria and NSW. The rule for whether your city can or can not have a meetup is:
  1. Does Bunnings currently allow Sausage Sizzles in your city.
  2. There is no rule 2.

Sorry Vic and NSW people, but that's just the way it has to be. We are not Qaren, we are not getting news stories about how we fucked everything up for everyone unless it's from us making millions in buying perfectly timing puts before a crash. Feel free to get Angry at whatever idiot decided the lowest bidder is the best way to supply security staff.

I can neither confirm nor deny that this is a secret plan by the mods to get someone to buy us beer in exchange for sugar daddy flair.
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EDIT: Time is this Saturday the 1st 1st 1PM (except hobart) Locations chosen are:
Brisbane:Pig 'N' Whistle at King George Square. But the chance of additional lockdown is rising.
Perth:Wembley, because it turns out most /ASX_bets members are in fact Triangle Tossers.
Hobart:The Winston
Adelaide:Undecided(I assume Plucky is bullshitting), you people need to vote or I'm deciding somewhere that all those serial killers will get you (which I assume is most Adelaide bars). The Malt Shovel. I picked it with Google maps. If it sucks or you all got murdered, it's your own fault. You could have just asked your wives boyfriend for a sec.
Darwin:The precient. Because the best place for your wives Tinder dates is also the best place for Autists.
Canberra:Unconfirmed if allowed. Possibly at the bar closest to ASIC HQ.
If you state needs bookings, I suggest making one. I will appoint people as needed.
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2020.07.24 23:03 ahmulz To me, ghosting starts...

To me, ghosting starts...
As a 27 year old person who has been single for a solid three years but is still subscribed to this sub because who knows, I should probably work at not dying alone... I'm a bit bewildered at the quantity and quality of these ghosting posts. Some people think it's the worst thing you can do to a person you're seeing, that it exposes toxic traits, self-obsession, and immaturity. Others think we don't owe anyone anything. Others think it's a person-by-person basis and it staves away harassment and potential harm. All of which seems valid to me.
My main question is this: at what stage is it considered ghosting? If I match with you on a dating app, and I drop off the conversation and never reply... is that ghosting? If I do that after the first, second, third date... is that ghosting? Is it only when I disappear on an established relationship?
It appears that we're all operating on a definition on our heads based on some personal experience. I'm proposing a poll to clarify this sub's position on the matter.
Of course, this is stupid. It's all stupid. Life is stupid.
Obviously, there are varying degrees of ghosting. We've heard of stories where people stop replying on dating apps... and people who've had spouses disappear into the wind. Obviously, the spouse disappearing is ghosting. The people who don't reply on dating apps is debatable. I've set this to only allowing one choice since I want to see a semi-clear delineation of where the line starts in the Reddit hive mind. Allowing for multiple choices has the potential to obscure intention. And besides- if you're voting for all the options, you probably need to get a thicker skin. Someone not replying to your Tinder messages is not in the same category as a spouse disappearing on you. Consequently: vote on the "least offensive" one to you that still constitutes ghosting in your mind's eye.
Happy voting. If this gains any traction at all, we'll see just how pissy people get.
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Vote When a person purposefully ignores messages and date invitations after the first date 4 Votes
Vote When a person purposefully ignores messages and date invitations after the second date 1 Votes
Vote When a person purposefully ignores messages and date invitations after the third date 0 Votes
Vote When a person purposefully ignores messages and date invitations after any subsequent dates after the third date 2 Votes
Vote When a person purposefully disappears on a new relationship (under a month) 0 Votes
Vote When a person purposefully disappears on a new relationship (under three months) 1 Votes
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2020.07.23 14:02 iamkritisenan 5 Ways How Exercise make you better in Sex

Editor's Note : This article was originally posted on the website https://www.roshnikhanna.in/
On the off chance that you are getting in a temperament of talking to a hot young lady then innovation can be your closest companion. In the realm of web based life and a few sites where you can discover hot young ladies to meet them in a call, you can talk to any young lady you need.
While meeting a Russian young lady or an autonomous call young lady is the thing that rich folks do, talking with hot young ladies via telephone is in every case free. These applications are flawless to suit occupied timetables and make it simple to date individuals.
Additionally for men who are separated from everyone else at home these applications can be a way to the outside world as they can begin a visit with a young lady when they are distant from everyone else and thoroughly acting naturally.
Here are 5 best dating applications
Alright Cupid
Alright Cupid appeared in the year 2004 and is one of the first dating destinations. The application has around 10 million clients. The forte of the dating application is that it asks new and non-conventional inquiries, and pushes towards enduring connections. There are in excess of 20 sexual directions and 12 sex characters, which make OK Cupid actually for each and every individual who needs an accomplice or is looking for a relationship. You will locate various functionalities in the free form of the application itself. There are 2 distinctive paid participation alternatives. You can pick the "A-rundown" choice for an expense of $9.95 for one month (or $6.95 every month for a half year one-time installment). The other choice is "A-rundown premium" for 24.90 for one month (or $19.90 every month for a half year). Alright Cupid gets a rating of 4.5 out of 5 on iTunes store.
Tinder
Tinder has in excess of 57 million clients and is offered in excess of 25 dialects. The application offers an exceptionally shortsighted enrollment framework through Facebook. It is extraordinary compared to other applications for easygoing hookups yet in addition accommodates enduring connections and marriage. Getting a counterpart for yourself is as straightforward as making a swipe.
One can likewise utilize the "Visa" highlight to look for matches in some random city, as areas can be effortlessly changed. There are 2 redesign/paid choices on Tinder. These incorporate Tinder Plus and Tinder Gold. Kindling Plus has an expense of $9.99/month for clients with an age of 30 years or less, and $19.99 every month for those having a time of over 30 years). Kindling in addition to offers promotion free swiping, choice to conceal your separation and age, and different advantages. Kindling Gold expenses $21.99 for every month, offers all highlights of Tinder Plus and that's just the beginning. The unique highlights here incorporate top picks, auto-match, and others. Kindling has a rating of 3.5 out of 5 stars on iTunes.
Badoo
Badoo has a powerful check framework, which guarantees that all profiles on the application are genuine. The geolocation include makes it profoundly valuable when you need to really meet somebody close by. You may discover individuals who you cross by routinely, on Badoo. The visual center is acceptable, while the application seems to have its own informal organization. Badoo has around 350 million clients. The application exceeds expectations in regions including route, plan, feel, and effortlessness. It likewise the facial-acknowledgment highlight, so you make a match with somebody who takes after your big name pulverize. The paid form of the application costs $2.99.The application has 4.5 out of 5 evaluations in the Apple application store.
Happn
The Happn dating idea depends on genuine experiences, in a specific way. The application makes a match based on individuals you really go across by in the city. Subsequently the odds of meeting and dating are high, and the associations are additionally very fascinating. You additionally get data on the expert parts of your match, similar to the activity title and friends. You can "like" somebody secretly and furtively. There are in excess of 10 million clients of Happn, and the paid variant of the application costs just $22.99 (for 100 contact credits). The application gets a rating of 4.2 out of 5 on the App Store. At times you even find hot call girls ready to meet/ and have some good times time.
EHarmony
EHarmony utilizes AI (Artificial Intelligence) to make the best matches. It gains from client conduct and presents the most ideal matches. The enlistment procedure is quick and smooth. Your responses to the eHarmony poll help the application give great and beneficial choices to you. The paid enrollment costs $9.99, yet the free form likewise has various highlights. The application has for you constrained match choices one after another with the goal that you get adequate opportunity to investigate locate the most ideal choice. The rating of the application on the App Store is 3.5 out of 5.
There are both free and paid renditions of the applications accessible, and the paid alternatives are additionally very reasonable. Regardless of whether you are searching for a drawn out relationship or easygoing hookups, internet dating applications will make your life simple and give you precisely what you are searching for, or something much more.
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2020.07.22 11:38 iamkritisenan 5 Best Dating Apps on the Apple App Store

Editor’s Note: This article was originally posted on the website https://www.roshnikhanna.in/
Regardless of whether you are searching for a drawn out relationship or easygoing hookup, internet dating applications have precisely what you are looking for, and that's only the tip of the iceberg! These applications have free forms, suit the prerequisites of individuals with a bustling calendar, and help the thoughtful people. You can meet intriguing individuals, however can without much of a stretch keep away from shame by utilizing the dating application when you look for an accomplice or companion. Here are 5 best dating applications particle Apple App Store.
Ok Cupid
Alright Cupid appeared in the year 2004 and is one of the first dating locales. The application has around 10 million clients. The strength of the dating application is that it asks new and non-customary inquiries, and pushes towards dependable connections. There are in excess of 20 sexual directions and 12 sex characters, which make OK Cupid actually for each and every individual who needs an accomplice or is looking for a relationship. You will locate various functionalities in the free form of the application itself. There are 2 diverse paid enrollment choices. You can pick the "A-rundown" alternative for an expense of $9.95 for one month (or $6.95 every month for a half year one-time installment). The other choice is "A-rundown premium" for 24.90 for one month (or $19.90 every month for a half year). Alright Cupid gets a rating of 4.5 out of 5 on iTunes store.
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Tinder
Tinder has in excess of 57 million clients and is offered in excess of 25 dialects. The application offers an exceptionally oversimplified enrollment framework through Facebook. It is a standout amongst other applications for easygoing hookups yet in addition accommodates enduring connections and marriage. Getting a counterpart for yourself is as basic as making a swipe. One can likewise utilize the "Visa" highlight to scan for matches in some random city, as areas can be effortlessly changed. There are 2 redesign/paid alternatives on Tinder. These incorporate Tinder Plus and Tinder Gold. Kindling Plus has an expense of $9.99/month for clients with an age of 30 years or less, and $19.99 every month for those having a period of over 30 years). Kindling in addition to offers promotion free swiping, alternative to shroud your separation and age, and different advantages. Kindling Gold expenses $21.99 for every month, offers all highlights of Tinder Plus and the sky is the limit from there. The exceptional highlights here incorporate top picks, auto-match, and others. Kindling has a rating of 3.5 out of 5 stars on iTunes.
Badoo
Badoo has a strong check framework, which guarantees that all profiles on the application are genuine. The geolocation highlight makes it profoundly valuable when you need to really meet somebody close by. You may discover individuals who you cross by normally, on Badoo. The visual center is acceptable, while the application seems to have its own informal community. Badoo has around 350 million clients. The application exceeds expectations in territories including route, plan, feel, and straightforwardness. It additionally the facial-acknowledgment highlight, so you make a match with somebody who looks like your big name smash. The paid form of the application costs $2.99.The application has 4.5 out of 5 evaluations in the Apple application store.
Happn
The Happn dating idea depends on real experiences, in a specific way. The application makes a match based on individuals you really go across by in the city. Consequently the odds of meeting and dating are high, and the collaborations are likewise very intriguing. You likewise get data on the expert parts of your match, similar to the activity title and friends. You can "like" somebody secretly and covertly. There are in excess of 10 million clients of Happn, and the paid variant of the application costs just $22.99 (for 100 contact credits). The application gets a rating of 4.2 out of 5 on the App Store.
EHarmony
EHarmony utilizes AI (Artificial Intelligence) to make the best matches. It gains from client conduct and presents the most ideal matches. The enlistment procedure is quick and smooth. Your responses to the eHarmony poll help the application give great and beneficial alternatives to you. The paid participation costs $9.99, yet the free form additionally has various highlights. The application has for you constrained match alternatives one after another with the goal that you get adequate opportunity to investigate locate the most ideal choice. The rating of the application on the App Store is 3.5 out of 5.
iOS has the absolute most ideal alternatives for you when you need to date close by or a ways off. There are both free and paid adaptations of the applications accessible, and the paid alternatives are additionally very moderate.
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2020.07.16 08:03 HayeBail Alright. We broke up. Now what? (F20) (M19)

Alright. We broke up. After 2 years, my boyfriend and I broke up. It was mutual, but that whole thing isn't what I am here for today...
The break up made me realize how just... I am not the person that I want to be.
How do I fix this? How do I keep myself from making the same mistakes?
Everything he did annoyed me. A lot. Small things. Little comments. Little actions. I was a nit picker. How do I become more patient? How do I let the little annoyances that flew me into a rage pass me by like a cool river?
How do I improve my self esteem? How do I boost my confidence so I do not have to poll my significant other for my worth? I want it to come from within. But I have always hated myself. Everything. My hair, the way I laugh, my nails, my stomach, the way I look in clothing, my asymmetry... everything. Every flaw is amplified in my mind. That needs to stop.
How do I get a better grip on my mental health? I have C-PTSD, OCD, Depression, and so much more. I do not have health insurance and I am super broke. How do I find professional help that will still let me pay my bills? The help I need is way over due... I can barely be alone with my own thoughts in the shower. It feels like a wave of sadness, anger, and just awfulness comes crashing in to ruin my time.
How do I find friends? I am realizing Tinder after a breakup kind of is a shitty way to find friends. So, how fo I do that in this post covid world and not get stabbed?
How do I become a better animal mom? How do I take more time and enjoy it with my dog? What are some fun and easy things to do with your pets? Also preferably cheap. She is 9 now and I want to spend the time I have left with her in a good way.
How do I find hobbies that stick? I got into knitting... for a week. Crocheting... a week. Back into painting... a week. Playing stardewvalley... a week. I read and listen to podcasts now, but I need more things to do. I tried running for awhile, but I haven't tried that since I moved.
I cannot have another relationship or continue to live this way. I am a shell of a person. I never thought I would live past 18. I tried my best not to. But, despite it all, I am here. I am alive. I am making rent. I have some friends. I guess I should try to make the best of it. And fixing these issues is what I need to do.
TL;DR Breaking up made me realize I need to work on myself. How do I do that in the cheapest and most effective way possible?
Thank you!
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2020.07.08 18:09 agridulces Tips on waiting for Placements/Updates

I've read a TON of opinions on these threads about whether or not things will be canceled, delayed, or business-as-usual, and they all (well, mostly) have been very insightful and helpful. The point of this thread isn't to discuss what you think is going to happen. Instead, it's to talk about what productive or fun things you're doing while you're waiting! Here's a bit of what I've been doing that may be useful to some of you:
1. Working
Everyone needs money! Regardless of whether or not we'll be in Japan in the next few months or still in your home country, you're going to need money! Take this time to work hard + save up (if you can; I know there are many people out of work during this time). Try applying to places like your local supermarket (a lot of supermarkets are hiring a lot of new people during this time), election poll locations (if you have one nearby), or look into doing something online if you still feel uncomfy about leaving your house. Preply, Tandem, and other apps are ways you can get paid to tutor people in language.
2. Find short term employment
If we assume we are still leaving in September, that only leaves you 2 months to work! See if you can find something short term and temporary so you can save up! Some jobs (election poll workers, grocery stock clerks) may be hiring for short periods of time. If we are delayed or things are canceled, the short term work can help give you a boost in terms of your savings. Like I said before, you're going to need money regardless!
3. Practice Japanese
This is an easy one. If we go to Japan, this will obviously be an asset. If we are delayed, even more time to practice! If it's canceled or pushed back to next year, at least you can speak Japanese now (or at least some of it!) and that's always going to be a valuable skill! I use Duolingo, WaniKani, the Genki Textbooks, and Flaming Durtles (app), Mirai Japanese, Japanese Ammo With Misa (Youtube), and Coursera. It's never a bad time to learn a new language!
4. Make a "Problem Tree"
All this extra time + waiting + uncertainty has led to an immense amount of stress for me. I've responded by taking the time to map out my thoughts and feelings. Here is a link to a picture I found that kind of looks like how I did mine:
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fdigitalpromise.org%2F2018%2F07%2F11%2Fcreating-resilient-communities-learning-studio%2Fproblem-tree%2F&psig=AOvVaw0bu7vYKBDZqUi68Wqxej8I&ust=1594310359048000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAIQjRxqFwoTCMDL8JeDvuoCFQAAAAAdAAAAABAH
I didn't draw mine in the shape of a tree, but it doesn't really matter. The point is to just get your feelings on paper and try to understand the root causes of your feelings whether they are positive or negative feelings.
5. Explore your Religion/Spirituality/Convictions
I am a Christian, and that's important to who I am. These past few weeks I've been pondering how I might change the way I practice my religion in Japan, questioning some of the things I believe, and examining my values. This is something that's important for me to do regardless of whether or not we go to Japan. Japan or no Japan, I'm glad for this step. I have learned a lot about myself (and a lot of it is connected with the aforementioned problem tree).
6. Improve a skill
Better yourself! I've played the piano since I was 7, but I've never really been good at it. Taking time to learn how to improve! My original motivation was so that I could learn to play "Lemon" to impress my Japanese friends, but now I'm just doing it for myself. So far I have been using YouTube to teach myself how to play Lemon and The Truth Untold, and I'll be honest, I'm kinda proud of myself.
7. Learn a new skill
Never thought I would learn how to code, but alas, here I am. These websites have a lot of cool (and many free) classes! I recently started taking some really fun classes on ancient Egypt, linguistics, coding and Japanese art. You can go at your own pace, so don't feel pressured to "keep up". Check it our if you have some extra time and want to learn something new! Here are the websites I use:
- edx.com
- coursera.com
- alison.com
8. Clean out your closets
If we do move to Japan in September, you'll need to thin out eventually. If we move at a later date, you'll still need to do it at some point. If we don't, you'll thank yourself for clean and organized closets/rooms that make your house (and your life) feel less cluttered.
9. Meet people in Japan!
I downloaded Tinder Passport (it was free to sign up a few weeks ago) and have been talking to people who live in Japan. My bio is very clear that I'm only on the app to talk to people (not to date), but hey, to each their own! If we do go to Japan, I'll already have contacts of people to meet + hang out with. If we don't, at least I met some cool people. Remember, be honest and up front with people so as not to lead them on!
10. Future plans
You can't be a JET ALT forever. Eventually you have to move on! Take this time to map out your post-ALT plans, whether that be the near future if JET is cancelled or if that's 5 years from now when you finish serving your time as an ALT. I have been looking into masters programs I may be interested in when I finish my time in Japan with JET, or programs I may do in case we do not have the chance to do JET this year. Either way, I want to be prepared!
11. Volunteer Online!
It's ALWAYS a good time to help someone out. I recently started tutoring English online as a volunteer, and it's great experience for me to practice teaching English (ALT), and if not for Japan, it's still a good skill as you're helping others. Check out these sites:
- dosomething.org
- volunteermatch.com
- https://www.pointsoflight.org/virtual-volunteering-opportunities/
12. Do something 100% just for fun
I've started playing Left For Dead 2 recently and I LOVE it. If we do end up in Japan in a few months, it'll be a great way to stay connected with my friends in the US because we try to play together online. If we don't go to Japan, at least I'm having a great time! (P.S. add me if you play L4D2! username is malahub).
Anyone else with suggestions? Feel free to add! And please, let's not argue about delays, postponing things, and the future! Let's just talk about what we're all doing in the meantime!
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2020.07.06 22:48 aresponsibilitytoawe Arta's series on demisexuality and human sexuality - part 1 (the validity of demisexuality)

It seems like the prevailing opinion on social media is that demisexuality is somewhat an obsolete term; due to it being associated with sapiosexuality (an obsolete term itself - [here](www.reddit.com/demisexuality/comments/gqpqex/comment/frxbv1h) are my thoughts on that), people have assumed that we are co-opting the demi label for a varied number of reasons. Some feel hetero demis wish to gain access to LGBT spaces, some believe we are virtue signalling that we aren't promiscuous, some even think we want to microlabel to feel 'special' - this couldn't be further from the truth. I will give fair warning, these posts are rather lengthy, so feel free to read another time if you are busy.
Asexuality is one of the most commonly misunderstood areas of human sexuality today. The most common misconception is that asexuals lack a sex drive - asexuality is about whether someone can become sexually attracted to another person, not whether they have a libido or whether they are sex-positive/sex-negative, which are separate concepts in themselves. Another thing which muddies the waters for other people is the fact that some asexuals still have sex; good way to explain this is by correlating with another sexuality with another physiological drive - hunger. Say you are hungry, you could choose to eat a food you don't like, although you know you wouldn’t enjoy it. Much like if you are sexually aroused, you could choose to have sex with someone you aren’t attracted to, although you know you wouldn’t enjoy it.
As a result, demisexuality is wrongly correlated with being allosexual – worryingly, people specifically say ‘demisexuals are just normal people (read allosexuals) who don't like hookups.’ This is damaging for two reasons; most people not only believe in love at first sight, but studies have proved most people also make up their mind about a stranger within a few minutes of meeting them - these are not demisexual traits. In addition, attempting to label allosexuality as ‘normal’ infers asexuality is abnormal.
I found an excellent analogy on demisexuality recently which explains a major difference between a demisexual and allosexual by comparing dating strategies. An allosexual would go on a date with someone they had recently met with the desire to have sex that person after an unspecified number of dates if everything went well. They may, or may not, sexualise their partner mentally after a date or two, but they would feel sexually attracted to that person in order to go on that date. Whereas if a demisexual went on the same date, they would feel no sexual attraction towards them and are likely on the date because they find the other person interesting and aesthetically attractive, and wouldn’t likely even feel sexual desire towards that person for months afterwards.
A source of confusion for some younger demis is that due to societal expectations, and the fact they have a sex drive, they may believe they allosexual. As they don't understand the difference between sexual arousal/drive, sexual attraction and romantic attraction, they have sex when they date and just go along with expection - they may just don't enjoy it. Others identify as asexual - they understand they haven't experienced sexual attraction to someone, and sexual attraction only becomes apparent after feelings develop for a friend, or after months of dating. This makes traversing the dating scene particularly difficult for young demis.
Similarly, many older demisexuals who are firm in their identity still struggle to date, even if they are alloromantic; this is because of the underlying expectation of sex in the crystallising weeks of a relationship. This makes perfect sense - not only do most people believe in love at first sight (a trait exclusive to alloromanticism, but heavily linked to allosexuality) but an overwhelming majority (82%?) value good sex as very important in a relationship - [well, at least in America](www.reuters.com/article/us-love-relationships-poll/most-americans-believe-in-love-at-first-sight-poll-) and much of the western world.
There is no question that most people value the act of sex as a means of expressing feelings for a partner and ensuring compatibility with them. However, as a demi, if it takes months for you to feel connected enough to even feel sexually attracted to a partner, this creates a unique series of unfortunate events/possibilities in demi/allo relationships;
-you tell them you are demi, they are a reasonable person who understands demisexuality and they may even like you, but as they are a very sexual person they are not willing to wait the unspecified amount of time it takes for your flip to switch, so you aren't compatible. Again, fair enough.
-you have a long term friend who you get on really well; months pass... and all of a sudden, you realise you are sexually attracted to them. This is awkward, because you know they don’t see you in that way - that is not how most other people work. There are options - you don’t tell them because that would make things more awkward, which still leaves you feeling shit, or you tell them and likely torpedo your friendship.
-you can try using a dating site, but you are essentially looking for a needle in a haystack without a magnet
I could go on, but I think you get the point - not only is it difficult for a demi to approach a relationship openly and honestly unless they have some serious self-confidence, demi/allo relationships are fraught with intricacies which a lot of people simply can’t put up with. This is isn't to say that demi/allo partnerships are doomed from the beginning - it is rather that there aren't many allosexuals out there who both understand demisexuality as a concept and are willing to wait for a demisexual partner to become sexually attracted.
Demisexuality is also relatively rare (maybe 1-3% of the population is demi, depending on where you set the boundaries), female demis far outweigh male demis and far less than 1% of people identify as demi – likely due to lack of public knowledge on the topic, or fear of the public court of opinion. This makes finding a compatible demi incredibly difficult outside of large cities, whilst dating apps are either overwhelming designed for allosexuals (like Tinder) or just make token references to demisexuality with no real end product (like OkCupid). Many demisexuals, including myself, don't use dating sites as we know it is likely a colossal waste of time unless things change.
It is also important to note that since the 1960s, there has been an increasing social acceptance of people wishing to explore their sexuality, and more recently people are beginning to warm to transsexuality as well - specifically, the old traditions of heterosexual monogamy and gender roles (very recently) have come under challenge by the general public.
However, asexuality challenges other traditions which still hold sway over the collective psyche – the prioritisation of sexual relationships (partly due to the perceived scarcity of sex as a resource) and the idea that romance and sexuality are two intrinsically linked concepts, amongst others; I think this is a better way of describing the phrase 'allonormativity'; it is not one force, but multiple forces working in tandem.
Something interesting to note (which I will touch on in a later post) is the concept of sexuality as leverage in societal interactions. As demisexuals are essentially asexual until they have that emotional connection, they are very similar to asexuals when considering social aspects. I don’t think anyone here would argue with the fact sex sells, even when posting this on this sub; there are several downstream effects of this. The one I will touch on here is that mainstream media influences what is considered attractive to a reasonable degree – currently, attractiveness has been tied to the concept of sexual availability, which, by inference, posits that asexuality is unattractive. This biases allos and aces into believing asexuality is an unattractive trait, which is damaging for all of us.
There is an argument for asexuality having something in common with transsexuality in terms of a common goal – working against traditional gender roles in terms of relationships. Those on the asexual spectrum do not frequently match up well with societally conventional gender roles - particularly men who live in countries where they are expected to be the leading partner in a relationship or women who live in countries which the purported importance of being sexually attractive and available. funnily enough, I have always identified with wanting a partner I could consider an equal and have found the concept of relationships based on power dynamic games unsettling; it would be interesting to here some of your thoughts about this in the comments.
Societally enforced gender roles in relationships infer their opposites to be unattractive traits. You aren’t sexually forward as a man? Weak and unattractive. If you won't sleep with your partner as a woman after dating for a while? Must be prudish or generally poor relationship material. This is quite obviously far from the reality; we must work along with the trans movement in bringing a positive message about gender roles to the general public going forwards.
The most important take home message is that those on the asexual spectrum struggle to find connection because of the pervasiveness of sexuality on human discourse. Sex and romantic attraction are not intrinsically linked for everyone, and the assumption to the contrary severely limits society’s ability to have constructive discourse on these matters. Many demis and aces struggle to find connection as a result of this. This is yet another reason why demisexuality is a valid label - demisexuals struggle to find relevance in an allonormative world, just like asexuals, although not always to the same extent.
It is interesting to note the projection going on when those on social media are labelling demis as attention seekers, just like people labelled gay and trans people as attention seekers. What they are actually projecting is that they would only ever use such a label for attention, so therefore they believe other people are using the demi label for attention; ironically, they are also virtue signalling opposition against demis because it is popular on social media right now, which makes them hungry, hungry hypocrites. I find it hilarious that people have been so happy to tell on themselves like this, but we need to remember there’s a tonne of histrionics stuck in their houses because of lockdown, so we can’t be too surprised.
I will wrap this up by touching upon the fact that we are not looking for sympathy, neither do I believe I am LGBT as a hetero demi, or that asexuals are intrinsically more prone to oppression to allos who are gay/bi/pan – that is most certainly not the case. Instead, we are not only trying to get people to understand who we are and what we represent, but we are also looking to advance the discussion on how societally enforced gender roles and other forms of allonormativity are detrimental to all of us. The next post will be on how advancing understanding of asexuality (and human sexuality in general) is a net positive for society - thanks for reading!
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2020.07.06 22:43 aresponsibilitytoawe Arta's series on demisexuality and human sexuality - part 1 (the validity of demisexuality)

It seems like the prevailing opinion on social media is that demisexuality is somewhat an obsolete term; due to it being associated with sapiosexuality (an obsolete term itself - [here](www.reddit.com/demisexuality/comments/gqpqex/comment/frxbv1h) are my thoughts on that), people have assumed that we are co-opting the demi label for a varied number of reasons. Some feel hetero demis wish to gain access to LGBT spaces, some believe we are virtue signalling that we aren't promiscuous, some even think we want to microlabel to feel 'special' - this couldn't be further from the truth. I will give you fair warning, these posts are fairly lengthy, so feel free to read whenever you have the time.
Asexuality is one of the most commonly misunderstood areas of human sexuality today. The most common misconception is that asexuals lack a sex drive - asexuality is about whether someone can become sexually attracted to another person, not whether they have a libido or whether they are sex-positive/sex-negative, which are separate concepts in themselves. Another thing which muddies the waters for other people is the fact that some asexuals still have sex; good way to explain this is by correlating with another sexuality with another physiological drive - hunger. Say you are hungry, you could choose to eat a food you don't like, although you know you wouldn’t enjoy it. Much like if you are sexually aroused, you could choose to have sex with someone you aren’t attracted to, although you know you wouldn’t enjoy it.
As a result, demisexuality is wrongly correlated with being allosexual – worryingly, people specifically say ‘demisexuals are just normal people (read allosexuals) who don't like hookups.’ This is damaging for two reasons; most people not only believe in love at first sight, but studies have proved most people also make up their mind about a stranger within a few minutes of meeting them - these are not demisexual traits. In addition, attempting to label allosexuality as ‘normal’ infers asexuality is abnormal.
I found an excellent analogy on this sub recently which explains a major difference between a demisexual and allosexual by comparing dating strategies. An allosexual would go on a date with someone they had recently met with the desire to have sex that person after an unspecified number of dates if everything went well. They may, or may not, sexualise their partner mentally after a date or two, but they would feel sexually attracted to that person in order to go on that date. Whereas if a demisexual went on the same date, they would feel no sexual attraction towards them and are likely on the date because they find the other person interesting and aesthetically attractive, and wouldn’t likely even feel sexual desire towards that person for months afterwards.
A source of confusion for some younger demis is that due to societal expectations, and the fact they have a sex drive, they may believe they allosexual. As they don't understand the difference between sexual arousal/drive, sexual attraction and romantic attraction, they have sex when they date and just go along with expection - they may just don't enjoy it. Others identify as asexual - they understand they haven't experienced sexual attraction to someone, and sexual attraction only becomes apparent after feelings develop for a friend, or after months of dating. This makes traversing the dating scene particularly difficult for young demis.
Similarly, many older demisexuals who are firm in their identity still struggle to date, even if they are alloromantic; this is because of the underlying expectation of sex in the crystallising weeks of a relationship. This makes perfect sense - not only do most people believe in love at first sight (a trait exclusive to alloromanticism, but heavily linked to allosexuality) but an overwhelming majority (82%?) value good sex as very important in a relationship - [well, at least in America](www.reuters.com/article/us-love-relationships-poll/most-americans-believe-in-love-at-first-sight-poll-) and much of the western world.
There is no question that most people value the act of sex as a means of expressing feelings for a partner and ensuring compatibility with them. However, as a demi, if it takes months for you to feel connected enough to even feel sexually attracted to a partner, this creates a unique series of unfortunate events/possibilities in demi/allo relationships;
-you tell them you are demi, they are a reasonable person who understands demisexuality and they may even like you, but as they are a very sexual person they are not willing to wait the unspecified amount of time it takes for your flip to switch, so you aren't compatible. Again, fair enough.
-you have a long term friend who you get on really well; months pass... and all of a sudden, you realise you are sexually attracted to them. This is awkward, because you know they don’t see you in that way - that is not how most other people work. There are options - you don’t tell them because that would make things more awkward, which still leaves you feeling shit, or you tell them and likely torpedo your friendship.
-you can try using a dating site, but you are essentially looking for a needle in a haystack without a magnet
I could go on, but I think you get the point - not only is it difficult for a demi to approach a relationship openly and honestly unless they have some serious self-confidence, demi/allo relationships are fraught with intricacies which a lot of people simply can’t put up with. This is isn't to say that demi/allo partnerships are doomed from the beginning - it is rather that there aren't many allosexuals out there who both understand demisexuality as a concept and are willing to wait for a demisexual partner to become sexually attracted.
Demisexuality is also relatively rare (maybe 1-3% of the population is demi, depending on where you set the boundaries), female demis far outweigh male demis and far less than 1% of people identify as demi – likely due to lack of public knowledge on the topic, or fear of the public court of opinion. This makes finding a compatible demi incredibly difficult outside of large cities, whilst dating apps are either overwhelming designed for allosexuals (like Tinder) or just make token references to demisexuality with no real end product (like OkCupid). Many demisexuals, including myself, don't use dating sites as we know it is likely a colossal waste of time unless things change.
It is also important to note that since the 1960s, there has been an increasing social acceptance of people wishing to explore their sexuality, and more recently people are beginning to warm to transsexuality as well - specifically, the old traditions of heterosexual monogamy and gender roles (very recently) have come under challenge by the general public.
However, asexuality challenges other traditions which still hold sway over the collective psyche – the prioritisation of sexual relationships (partly due to the perceived scarcity of sex as a resource) and the idea that romance and sexuality are two intrinsically linked concepts, amongst others; I think this is a better way of describing the phrase 'allonormativity'; it is not one force, but multiple forces working in tandem.
Something interesting to note (which I will touch on in a later post) is the concept of sexuality as leverage in societal interactions. As demisexuals are essentially asexual until they have that emotional connection, they are very similar to asexuals when considering social aspects. I don’t think anyone here would argue with the fact sex sells, even when posting this on this sub; there are several downstream effects of this. The one I will touch on here is that mainstream media influences what is considered attractive to a reasonable degree – currently, attractiveness has been tied to the concept of sexual availability, which, by inference, posits that asexuality is unattractive. This biases allos and aces into believing asexuality is an unattractive trait, which is damaging for all of us.
There is an argument for asexuality having something in common with transsexuality in terms of a common goal – working against traditional gender roles in terms of relationships. Those on the asexual spectrum do not frequently match up well with societally conventional gender roles - particularly men who live in countries where they are expected to be the leading partner in a relationship or women who live in countries which the purported importance of being sexually attractive and available. funnily enough, I have always identified with wanting a partner I could consider an equal and have found the concept of relationships based on power dynamic games unsettling; it would be interesting to here some of your thoughts about this in the comments.
Societally enforced gender roles in relationships infer their opposites to be unattractive traits. You aren’t sexually forward as a man? Weak and unattractive. If you won't sleep with your partner as a woman after dating for a while? Must be prudish or generally poor relationship material. This is quite obviously far from the reality; we must work along with the trans movement in bringing a positive message about gender roles to the general public going forwards.
The most important take home message is that those on the asexual spectrum struggle to find connection because of the pervasiveness of sexuality on human discourse. Sex and romantic attraction are not intrinsically linked for everyone, and the assumption to the contrary severely limits society’s ability to have constructive discourse on these matters. Many demis and aces struggle to find connection as a result of this. This is yet another reason why demisexuality is a valid label - demisexuals struggle to find relevance in an allonormative world, just like asexuals, although not always to the same extent.
It is interesting to note the projection going on when those on social media are labelling demis as attention seekers, just like people labelled gay and trans people as attention seekers. What they are actually projecting is that they would only ever use such a label for attention, so therefore they believe other people are using the demi label for attention; ironically, they are also virtue signalling opposition against demis because it is popular on social media right now, which makes them hungry, hungry hypocrites. I find it hilarious that people have been so happy to tell on themselves like this, but we need to remember there’s a tonne of histrionics stuck in their houses because of lockdown, so we can’t be too surprised.
I will wrap this up by touching upon the fact that we are not looking for sympathy, neither do I believe I am LGBT as a hetero demi, or that asexuals are intrinsically more prone to oppression to allos who are gay/bi/pan – that is most certainly not the case. Instead, we are not only trying to get people to understand who we are and what we represent, but we are also looking to advance the discussion on how societally enforced gender roles and other forms of allonormativity are detrimental to all of us. The next post will be on how advancing understanding of asexuality (and human sexuality in general) is a net positive for society - thanks for reading!
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2020.07.06 03:33 mountainman338 Interested to see what percentage of women on tinder/online dating apps are actually looking for a legitimate relationship

If your a male do not skew the poll as this will give us guys a somewhat accurate depiction of what women are really using tinder for(Men can select "view results option" on the poll as an option to see the results without affecting the answers from women. Thank you to the women for your participation and time this means a lot to us guys.
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Logan Paul - YouTube My Intestines Got Sucked Out In A Swimming Pool  TRULY Charlatan Poll: To Tinder or Not to Tinder? 14K Poll Time! YOU Choose our New Reaction Show!! r/Tinder  i'm an investment ;) - YouTube I Let TINDER Pick My SFX Makeup - YouTube

The Great (Casual) Tinder Poll : Tinder

  1. Logan Paul - YouTube
  2. My Intestines Got Sucked Out In A Swimming Pool TRULY
  3. Charlatan Poll: To Tinder or Not to Tinder?
  4. 14K Poll Time! YOU Choose our New Reaction Show!!
  5. r/Tinder i'm an investment ;) - YouTube
  6. I Let TINDER Pick My SFX Makeup - YouTube
  7. Jake Paul - YouTube
  8. CRAAZY TINDER GIRL IN MY BED (Animated Story) - YouTube
  9. Traveling Desi - YouTube
  10. Tinder - YouTube

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